Sticks & Stones May Break My Bones, But Abercrombie Clothes Will Never Fit Me

Abercrombie & Fitch ad

It has been more than a week since I was making a connecting flight in Minneapolis, I caught CNN and heard about Abercrombie & Fitch not making XL clothes for women. Since then I have seen followup stories and lots of social media posts on it.

My reaction didn’t seem to be reflected in social media much. I saw people talking about not being one of the cool kids if you can’t fit in AF clothes, people talking about girls & their (at times fragile) self-image. I saw lots of outrage directed at the company’s leadership. People saying they will never shop there.

What was (and still is) missing? For me I was missing a reality check… Actually several reality checks.

Is this really news?

I am not too sure how long AF has been at the mall, but I always knew they didn’t have clothes that fit me. Even as a thin high school student, my shoulders were too broad, my hips too wide.

So to me, the fact that they didn’t have clothes larger than a size 10 should not be considered news. My sister shared my disbelief that this was “news” and thought if parents of teens (like her) hadn’t noticed, maybe they were in part upset with themselves. And yet hundreds of stories have been done on the topic in the last week all expressing outrage over something that has been going on and talked about for years.

I know some people will point out the fact that the guy making such reprehensible comments about he only markets to cool kids, kids of a certain size (and I would add a family with a sizable income)…. Well that certainly makes it news. I guess this makes me wonder about the way people judge news value.

How many people were willing to put this into context as “news?” Not nearly enough. I find it amazing since I have a friend who’s family remains under siege in Syria. We have people doing incredible work in their communities, work that if it were more widely celebrated may be duplicated. And then we have this stuff….. This stuff that just doesn’t add any value but drives clicks on the Internet and ratings on TV. But make no mistake, these headlines are not written by journalists!

Who are the cool kids?

I feel safe in saying I was not one of the cool kids, especially if it was judged by name brand clothes. I may have occasionally thought I was one of the cool kids in school somewhere along the line, but I certainly had times where I doubted I could ever be cool. But more than anything, I think I am lucky because my mom tried hard to teach us that being “cool” isn’t the goal we should have.

Granted, we had moments where we may have forgotten, but I feel like my mom did a great job of helping me understand we all have communities – some wear name brand labels, some don’t; some included sports stars and cheerleaders; some may not;  but clothes and labels and titles weren’t the things that brought happiness to folks. And it still doesn’t.

Not Everything Fits Everyone

I have shopped at AF once. I remember the Christmas gift I was buying clearly. It was for someone who is far from materialistic and is incredibly generous. A friend had a certain cologne, it was the one thing on the Christmas list.

Clothes there don’t fit many of my family since we are mostly girls and most of us have not spent much of our lives in sizes 6 & 8. On the other hand, I have adult friends who are too small to buy many clothes in all the stores people like to shop in either. Yes, some of them still buy children’s clothes despite being in their 40s. It sucks and whether businesses choose to do it for marketing reasons and maybe they have jerks as CEOs but its the real world that businesses focus on specific market segments. It’s also the way the world works. Companies don’t make everything everyone would like. Is that news to anyone?

Expect Idiots to Say Dumb Things

I am sorry but in all of the talking and protest I’ve seen (and yes, it is still going on) I haven’t seen too many people just say you need to anticipate running into idiots and jerks in life. Sure, the CEO of Abercrombie and Fitch has a much more public forum and perhaps he can impact more people but come on.

As people denounced him, I didn’t hear people saying they were glad their children know better. But I have to say that I count on my nieces and nephews to know that the logo on your clothes doesn’t denote coolness. And in fact, my nephew and friends from his wrestling team, etc frequently speak up on the topic of bullying. They don’t want to have anything to do with it and they make sure others know.

I know my nephew has Abercrombie clothes and he has really enjoyed them. He may look at them differently but my hope is he still looks at people the same way — like each one is unique with the potential to be totally awesome, however he needs to also understand they can also be an idiot who does and say ignorant things. My nephew didn’t judge people by their looks before and I don’t think he is about to start…. THAT is what makes him a really cool kid.

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About Janice Person

I'm Janice & this blog is about my passions -- photography, travel, agriculture & whatever else comes to mind. Putting all those things together is intriguing to me…. I can spend a lot of time soaking it up! It's almost always a colorful adventure!

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7 Responses to Sticks & Stones May Break My Bones, But Abercrombie Clothes Will Never Fit Me

  1. Deanie H. Dunne (@hollyssis) May 21, 2013 at 6:30 pm #

    It’s disgraceful what Abercrombie and Fitch has done. No one should shop there. It’s discriminating to only cater to people who are a certain size. Your nephew is to be commended for standing against bullying and realizing that it’s a person’s heart that doesn’t change. The superficial outside things always change. I’ve never thought designer clothes add to a person’s character.

  2. Kasse May 21, 2013 at 8:01 pm #

    Janice, I loved reading this. I am so disconnected at times. I haven’t even heard the chatter, but I love the response. There have been times we have bought from the store in question and other times from thrift stores. Other times we buy from any store that has what we need in the time we have allotted to find it. Your perspective is fabulous.

    Kasse D.

    • Janice Person May 21, 2013 at 8:19 pm #

      Thanks Kasse! My family loves Thrift Shop shopping too. And I think it makes a lot more sense to be careful with your choices, but even then you can end up doing something that later may be questioned. I just think helping people put things in perspective is better then loud outrage. I only have so much energy and don’t like to waste it by getting all riled up.

    • Janice Person May 21, 2013 at 8:20 pm #

      Oh, and please know… my heart goes out to your fine state. I am so happy the numbers changed so dramatically! I know its still a tough loss…. and it is never taken lightly. Prayers sent.

  3. Jennifer May 21, 2013 at 8:15 pm #

    Well said, JP. My thoughts were: The guy’s a jerk, his clothes are crap anyway, who cares? I too was not a cool kid, although I did pay way too much for clothes that didn’t hold up to any kind of wear and tear in my younger days. Lessons have been learned. I would also note that around 2001 I was wearing a Medium at most stores, but needed a L or XL at AF. His message is not a good one, but if he doesn’t want to sell clothes to people my size, then I have no problem simply not buying clothes from him. That’s a better lesson to teach our youth.

  4. katlynrumbold May 23, 2013 at 12:16 pm #

    VERY GOOD post!! I’ve never been a fan of AF, so this whole deal doesn’t really surprise me. I’ve always thought their marketing ploy was kind of off, but hey I guess that’s life. One year for Christmas, my boyfriend (at the time) got me a $50 gift card there. I was outraged. I mean our whole dating life, I’ve never worn AF clothes (I don’t shop there…ever!) And then all I could get was one pair of jeans for $50!!! For a person who only shops the clearance rack, I thought that was ridiculous! Needless to say we’re not together anymore LOL!

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