Changing Ideas on When People “Get Old” and the Sexes

I was reminded clearly this week that my ideas of growing old have radically shifted in the past 15-20 years. Its not so much a revelation as I have noticed over time my group of peers has a wide spread of ages for some time, but this week-long vacation with my nephew Kazu was a stake I put in the sand two decades ago. Yes, I speak in decades and yet have friends who are in their twenties.

Like I said in a previous post about this vacation, I decided to do this long ago when my nieces were young. I figured that as much as I was traveling at the time, I’d be able to gather up frequent flyer miles for the trips. I talked to my older sister about traveling with her daughters long before my little sister started her family. In the typical mindset of youth, I didn’t really ponder the unborn.

Then Leslie got pregnant and I sort of wondered to myself, wow…. suddenly I had a trip scheduled for 16 years later. And I soon found out it would be with a nephew.

I have to admit, it was intimidating.

I had always been the “cool aunt” or as my cousin Jon-Eric calls me “Auntie Mame.” Friends even clipped articles out of magazines like the New Yorker that bestowed the virtues of single aunts who lived life to the fullest and shared that with nieces & nephews.

For a long-time though, I was really worried.

Would Kazu want to travel with old Aunt Janice? The worry came from two things the old part and the aunt part.

And I really didn’t want to share this worry with anyone else, so for the greatest part, I internalized it. Maybe that’s normal but who knows?

There were times where I wondered if I would need to change the deal. I really considered the idea that maybe I’d need to let Kazu invite a friend along, book two hotel rooms and cut it down to a long weekend. I figured that would be somewhat fair in costs and all, but knew that it would radically shift how the experience looked. There would be a distance in communication built in by having a third person along and the difference in having separate rooms would be clear.

However, in the last few years, I began to realize that maybe I should stick true to the vision. Keeping it the full week and just the two of us. I was a bit concerned that I may not have the physical stamina needed to keep up with a 16 year old boy and I knew I’d need to watch my diet more closely or I’d gain every bit of that 25 pounds I managed to lose the last six months, but I thought the big picture would still work.

On Thursday, as we were headed to the subway, I turned to Kazu and said “I’ve done pretty well keeping up with you huh?” He looked at me a bit blankly and said yes. That’s when I told him that I had worried I’d be too old for the trip. And he laughed. It was a great laugh that we shared.

Now I’m wondering what sort of adventures I should put on the calendar for 15-20 years out. The way I see it, I’ll still love traveling and people. Besides, knowing how this went, I’m betting I’m still young enough to give some travel mates a good run for their money!

What type of travel should I put on the calendar?

As I sit in the airport waiting for the flight home, I

20120623-090617.jpg

About Janice Person

I'm Janice & this blog is about my passions -- photography, travel, agriculture & whatever else comes to mind. Putting all those things together is intriguing to me…. I can spend a lot of time soaking it up! It's almost always a colorful adventure!

, , , ,

7 Responses to Changing Ideas on When People “Get Old” and the Sexes

  1. Bruce Sallan June 24, 2012 at 9:24 pm #

    The old cliche saying is true, “You are only as old as you feel!”

    YOU are young forever JP!

    • Janice Person June 24, 2012 at 10:30 pm #

      Thanks Bruce! You should enjoy the company as there is no need for either of us to feel old! 🙂

  2. Val Plagge June 25, 2012 at 11:29 am #

    Glad you had a great time with your nephew and that any worries or anxieties you had before the trip disappeared as you enjoyed your time together.

    I had an aunt do something similar for my sisters and I when we were in high school, except she took all my sisters and I at one time on a vacation, and she did the same with my other cousins. She took us as families verses individually.

    • Janice Person June 25, 2012 at 5:15 pm #

      Awesome! I have been lucky enough to visit with my nieces as a family several times. I join their family vacations, they visited me while I lived in NY, etc. so I usually had the three girls at once, that was part of what led me to decide to do it separately. Let each of them have it mostly about them (though each have also taken some opportunities to stretch and experience unique things. 🙂 )

  3. McLerranMD June 26, 2012 at 11:27 pm #

    I once ask my 92 year old great grand father how old he felt when he was getting ready to go to Florida to see his brother, he said most days about 18 mentally , some think you are good for a while.

Trackbacks/Pingbacks

  1. What Would “Auntie Mame” Do? Aunt Sissy knew best…. | Notes from a "Closet" Writer - July 5, 2012

    […] Changing Ideas on When People “Get Old” and the Sexes (janiceperson.com) LikeLike this:Like2 bloggers like this. This entry was posted in As A Woman, FEARLESS, SERENITY NOW! and tagged Aunt, Aunt Sissy, Auntie Mame, Caffeine, Cousin, family, Forensic science, Homeless, Ivy League, laugh, New York City, power, Public defender, Rosalind Russell, Serenity Prayer. Bookmark the permalink. […]

  2. Year-End Review -- Top 12 Posts of 2012 Plus Some - May 6, 2015

    […] New York with my nephew! — The fact that I had the foresight to give nieces and nephews a trip for their 16th birthdays that we get to enjoy together still reaps dividends. The trip was a great chance to see a city that I love with one of the great people I love. Having had years where the Empire State Building was on the horizon, it was especially nice that Kazu picked New York. We had lots of time to see the sights, talk about things that matter to us, let travel teach us all sorts of things and enjoy quite a few great meals! We saw the Manhattan Skyline and the Statue of Liberty from the Water and I even admitted that I was Changing Ideas on When People “Get Old” and the Sexes […]

What are you thinking?

11 Shares
Share11
Tweet
+1
Pin
Share
Share